If they don’t want you, they don’t deserve you. It is any day better that it ended this way, it could have been worse! The pain of losing them, the embarrassment of being rejected and the self-doubts that stem up, intrigues you to know more about yourself and thus, turn into a better version of you. It is all a learning experience! It makes you grow; you become mature. The situation is not as bad as it feels. It is just an overwhelming feeling that has to evacuate. You yourself play a major role in helping yourself out of heartbreak. After all, why would you give so much priority to someone, when all you are is their option? In fact, sometimes not even an option!
How to cope with heartbreak?
Accept your feelings:
You must be hurt and sad. It is obvious to feel this way. Accept it! Don’t pretend to be “okay”. By doing this, you’re lying to yourself and this won’t let you get over these feelings ever! You will only feel bad to worse. It is okay to feel somber. It is okay to feel the chaos within you. In order to get rid of these feelings, we need to first acknowledge them. Do not try to numb your emotions. Your emotions make you human. Always remember that, when you let go of someone, you become capable to choose better! Give yourself time to heal.
Crying is a healthy way to express your emotion. Cry and let all your pain out! Cry when you’re alone or around a friend, with whom you’d feel comfortable and who would not judge you; instead support you. It’ll surely make you feel better! Do not cry in public, where you would be judged and people would make you their gossip topic. This would make you feel even worse. Remember you’re strong, and you can handle your emotions!
If you still stay in touch with them, seeing them happy without you would hurt you more. You may get to know that they’re into some problem and that would make you help them; which would obviously lead to another heartbreak and more hurt this time. It may seem harsh, but, this is a very important step to take in order to heal. Block them from your social media and also block their phone number. Take measures to avoid running into them and inviting hurt again!
Find relief in music:
Listen to music that you can connect to at this point of time. Make sure you’re having your lone time, in which you can listen to this kind of music and cry. This would make you feel understood and thus, helps you let out your pain! Music heals you. It never lets you down. After this, you would surely feel light at heart, as if a heavy burden is taken off your chest.
Keep yourself occupied:
Keep yourself busy with something that you’re passionate about! Also, give yourself permission to indulge in activities just to enjoy. Try learning something new! Do things that you wouldn’t be able to do in a relationship. Travel and explore! Embrace the imperfect yet perfect person you are. All of this would help you move on for sure!
Spend quality time with your buddies.
Gradually reduce your lone time and increase the time you spend with your friends. The time when you go to bed is when you tend to over think. In order to help you through this, call your friends over for a night. In fact, go for night outs and have regular sleepovers so that, your mind gains some positivity, prohibiting you from over thinking. Friends really can make a great difference during heartbreak. Go ahead, reach out to them and hug away your pain!
To hate is easy. Loving is hard; it takes courage to learn to love again after being hurt, but, you are a conqueror once you master this art!
How To Make Your Long Distance Relationship Work?
Secrets of long distance relationship:
Are you in a long distance relationship? Do you want to make it work? You hear people say that, “long distance relationships don’t work” and you may also have questions running around your head like, “how can we stay in a relationship without meeting each other?” I’d say, do not let all of this kill your relationship. We are not living in a stone age. Technology has made it possible to stay in touch with each other even if the other person is anywhere across the globe. Remember distance can never measure your love!
1) Plan your schedule!
Different schedules, time zones and sleeping hours create a disruption in the communication while in a long distance relationship. Decide when in the day can both of you’ll devote time for quality communication. Many communication arrangements should be made in such a way that both of you’ll are satisfied. Make sure that you abide by this communication schedule in order to avoid resentment in your relationship.
2) Make plans!
Long distance may make you lose the flavor of your relationship if there is nothing you could look forward to. Make plans together in advance so that; you have something to be excited about. Planning trips together would be the best bid in this case because you’ll would be able to spend quality time together and you’d also get a break from the regular monotony. Even if you’ll are just paying a visit to each other, make sure you’ll go out on dates to make the meet special for the both of you. In this case lunch or dinner dates would be the best bid. Do make reservations for restaurants prior.
3) Communicate regularly!
It is a must to greet your partner with a “good morning” and “good night” everyday. This is to show them that the first thing on your mind when you wake up and the last thing on your mind before falling asleep is them. Make sure you update each other on what’s happening in your life. This would diminish the long distance virtually. To make it even better, send each other your pictures, videos of the happenings and audio clips. This shows that you are putting in effort and therefore, that this relationship means a lot to you. It also puts forward your intention of not taking each other for granted and thus, improves your bond.
4) Consider it to be an opportunity!
Believe that it is an opportunity to learn. This distance would test your bond. If you’ll are ideal for each other, you’ll don’t have to fear this test. This is the time, when you can actually get to know the strength of your bond and work on it. If you are pessimistic and fear losing each other, it would surly lead to your separation. Work it out, then; you will see that your relationship has grown to be stronger.
5) Fix an end date!
Decide on a date when all of this struggle of long distance would end. That is, plan on moving into the same city together. Long distance obviously cannot continue forever. When you decide the end date of the long distance, it gives you a hope and allows you to look forward to moving in together in future. Discuss well and make sure you’ll are on the same page on when to call the long distance off and when to finally be physically there for each other.
If you want to make it work, it will work!
‘How To Propose Your Girl ?’ – 5 Tips
What is love?
Loving is to always be there for your partner through beautiful as well as the tough times. When you love somebody, you accept them as they are, with all their flaws. You fall for the person they are! When two people are in love, they feel comfortable and secure with each other. Love comes upon you like freedom and helps you grow out of your cocoon, into a beautiful butterfly.
How to propose a girl?
Make sure you are love:
The first and the most important thing is to make sure if you’re really in love with her. In such situations, the questions to ask yourself would be-
Am I just attracted to her outward beauty or other materialistic aspects?
If yes, then stop trying! If no, then work on creating a bond with her.
Am I willing to accept her as she is?
If yes, ask her out! If no, don’t waste your time and hers.
When you start liking a girl a lot and you fall for her, in order to impress her, you try to behave in a way to grab her attention. Most of the guys think it works, but, it really doesn’t! Girls would rather appreciate if you be yourself. If you’re scared that you might lose out on her, by being yourself and if that is true then she isn’t the right one for you. Move on! On the other hand, if she accepts you for the person you are, then take it forward.
Take her out on a romantic date:
“I am planning to take her on an authentic lunch date or on a romantic candle light dinner”. Do you think it works? It will only make her feel special, but, she won’t fall in love with you. Rather, if you find out what is her favorite place and then surprise her by taking her out on a date to that particular place, it would have a greater impact.
Don’t wait for a special day:
Guys usually think that they should wait for a special day and then propose to a girl. If you keep waiting for that special day, you will see her run into someone else’s arms. A girl usually falls for a confident man. The emphasis is on confidence and not overconfidence. Go up to her and confidently tell her how you feel about her and thus, turn that normal day as a special day for both of you.
Girls may not express it, but, they like to check a guy for his consistency. No matter she says no at first, you still have a chance. You have to be persuasive, that will surely melt her and make her fall for you. However, there is a difference between being persuasive and being clingy. Do not ever be clingy; by being clingy you are pushing her away- she is going to get rid of you soon. Hence forth, make sure you’re persuasive and not clingy.
‘Why Women Need To Cuddle More & More’- Know What Science Says
Who doesn’t love cuddling? Cuddling shows your love and affection towards your partner. Holding your loved ones in your arms is one of the best feelings. But, its not just about love and affection, if you ask a couple! it’s about passion and getting intimate with each other and get the best feeling of love making.
No doubt, huggling and cuddling makes our relationship more healthy. But, apart from this, do you know how cuddling affects our health. All the activities we do to cuddle with each other actually helps us to boost our mood instantly and therefore helps us to live a better life.
Here’s why, women need to do more and more cuddling with their significant other half-
1. Enhance our immunity:
Our immune system gets temporarily fired up due to the touching and cuddling that ultimately helps us to enhance our physical health.
2. Our brain releases oxytocin:
Oxytocin is a chemical, a bonding hormone, that is relased by our body while cuddling. This bonding hormone makes us feel connected with each other.
3. Essential for mother-son relationship:
This oxytocin has another effect on young mothers as well. A young mother can easily bond with the newborn via cuddling. It helps with breastfeeding and getting sound sleep.
4. You become more interactive:
Oxyticin helps us top feel a positive vibe and with a positive attitude, we can get better connection with people. Cudding your partner might help you to become socially more responsible and optimistic about life.
5. A silent way to communicate:
Sometimes, verbal communication might be out of context- guys will understand this. But A hug can make your worries and problems disapear. All negativity is gone in an instant. So guys remember to give her a tight hug when she is upset.
6. Just cuddle and live a better love life:
Dopamine, which controls our reward and pleasure centers of our brain, is released while cuddling. We all know simple cuddles can bring wonders in our private lives.
So, after reading this, don’t feel shy and ask your loved one to cuddle you more and you do the same.
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